Quest for a Baby Boy
Healthy love hate relationship-quest for a baby boy was all about a young intelligent boy who left his country in the then Eastern Europe on a scholarship program to study in the USA, fell in love with an American girl who does not know anything about his traditions and believes where having a baby boy is preferred to baby girls. Healthy love hate relationship of Tom and Jenet, no doubt leaves one to wonder if it’s still possible to have healthy love hate relationship thriving beside each other at the same time. The answer is – yes love hate relationship can survive even at the last minute. The word love can have a variety of related, but distinct meanings in different contexts. Love as a general expression of positive sentiment, is commonly contrasted with hate, but to Jenet, understanding your partner before, any kind of sarcastic reaction, is the key. Sometimes, desperate situations push people to act against their wish. Tom was trapped by an old traditional believes and rituals, and found himself in a situation completely beyond his control. But she was clever enough to understand the situation clearly, and instead of turning her back on her husband, she supported him with lots of love. Jenets’s perception of love and relationship generally differs from everyone else – the more reason she was able to handle, and revived a love hate relationship that has developed in her marriage.
She quickly noticed that their marriage is doomed and heading to a rock, and something has to be done but her husband was in no situation to do anything to revive it. She acted firmly, proofing to everyone that love hate relationship could be repaired and kept alive irrespective of the circumstances. To her, love is sometimes contrasted with friendship, although the word love is often applied to close friendships. Love refers to a variety of different feelings and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection to pleasure. It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment. It can also be a virtue representing human kindness, compassion, and affection.
It may also describe compassionate and affectionate actions towards other humans, one’s self or animals. Love in its various forms, acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationships and, owing to its central psychological importance, is one of the most common themes in the creative arts. Love may be understood as a function to keep human beings together against menaces and to facilitate the continuation of the species. A love hate relationship as described by experts is an interpersonal relationship involving simultaneous or alternating emotions of love and hate, something particularly common when emotions are intense. It can be applied to relationships with inanimate objects, or even concepts, as well as those of a romantic nature or between siblings and parents or children.
A love hate relationship develops between them, when he seems to have completely lost the intimacy within their loving relationship, but he still retains the passion and commitment to her and the girls. Her unconditional love to Tom proves that irreconcilable differences as claimed by many as courses for their divorce, is only a tradition and a product of love hate relationship, therefore, could be quickly repaired and maintained irrespective of the bad situation.
Tom went to extreme trying to fulfill his personal desire to make his family proud, look good and respectful as to the standard in his home country but on the contrary, he produced five girls while trying to have a boy. He showed unconditional healthy love to his wife and children despite not been able to achieve his dream of having a baby boy after five attempts.
He never let that deter his love to his family. He never wanted to hurt Jenet’s feeling hence he decided to hide his country’s old traditional rituals from her. Though, Tom was not happy because he could not produce a baby boy as demanded in his home country but that does not affect his sincere love to his wife and children.
After trying those rituals himself, Tom then discovered they are only false believes and rituals their grand-parents inherited and no one has ever questioned the authenticity of such rituals. He decided to get rid of it by trying to educate his people against the perils of such old false believes and rituals – a campaign which he paid a high price.
Tom at some point got disappointed by himself and started believing he is really a weak sperm and useless man after five attempts and still could not have a baby boy. He simply concluded that the gods of his town have really abandoned him because he may have disrespected them by marrying a foreigner instead of a fellow local girl as his parents suggested. He never wanted any of those harsh punishments for not having baby boy to apply to his own family, so, he decided to travel to his home country to preach and fight against it, though he paid a price but he also succeeded in changing the perspective about child gender equality issues.
He was totally amazed by his wife’s first reply after been informed about those traditional rituals. He had expected some kind of sarcastic and brutal reply but Jenet was soft and gentle and did not want to hurt Tom’s feeling too. Instead, she took into consideration of her husband’s love not only to her but also to the girls.
Jenet had a healthy love with Tom from the first day. Her only hate was Tom’s secret rituals to have a baby boy which eventually failed. They both proved that you can easily turn hatred back into love by simply understanding your partner and the situation that created the hate environment at the first place.
Their romance made us to understand that love hate relationship could be repaired, revived and maintained even at the last minute.
Tom became relieved after getting the news that such traditional rituals and believes does not exist anymore and the country has abandoned the old believes and rituals, now embraced a new life he was preaching. Despite the pressure, burning desire and quest for a baby boy from his parents, Tom was patient, and never lost his cool and unconditional love for his wife and five girls until the elusive baby boy came when they are not even expecting him.
Alex and her sisters, “A-Lanzo all girls band,” wanted to use the opportunity to deliver a message to let the people understand very clearly, that having a baby girl, is as good and important, as having a baby boy. They wanted to give their parents a great treat and surprise gift, for all they went through in raising five girls, in an environment and tradition, where having only girls in the family was then regarded as a bad omen. They wanted to thank their father especially, for not abandoning their mother due to her inability to give birth to a baby boy after five attempts. They applauded their parents, for loving and sticking with each other, and having the courage to wait for God’s time to have a baby boy.